Building Family Bonds
© 2007 Resources for Educators
by Rod Wittmer
March 04, 2008
Your teenager is busy with schoolwork, friends, after-school clubs, and a part-time job. Where does family time fit in? Staying close to family keeps communication lines open and forms ties that will last a life-time. Try carving out “together time” with these ideas.
Casual chats
Join your child at what she does best: hanging out. When she
flops on the sofa after a long day, flop down near her. Wait for
her to say something, and follow her train of thought. At bedtime,
stop in her room to chat about your evening, plans for the weekend,
or the book you're reading. Spending even a few minutes together
each day will help keep you connected.
Shared interests
Look for natural ways to foster closeness. Maybe there’s a hobby
(jewelry making, canoeing) you and your high schooler can do
together. Or enjoy common interests, such as going shopping or
watching football games. Your teen may open up about what’s going
on in her life during those times. Plus, you will develop memories
for the future.
Extended family
Brainstorm ideas on keeping in touch with relatives. You might
hold a monthly “speakerphone” meeting with long-distance
grandparents. Or your child can conduct e-mail surveys with
questions for each person to answer and send to the group
(examples: “What’s your favorite food?” “What’s your earliest
memory?”). Strengthening these relationships will help your teen
see the importance of family.
